I’ve been enjoying reading the various posts from UU bloggers on #sexUUality over this past month. It’s been fascinating. Some talk about sex in the context of monogamous, heterosexual relationships such as this one by my friend and colleague Jordinn Nelson Long who shares how 30 days of making love was key in getting her marriage back on track, and this one by Lynn Ungar goes beyond hetero marriage to ask the question of all committed relationships, “is sex necessary?”
Others have explored the different ways love shows up in our lives, with all its complications and beauty such as the rich complexities of loving beyond set sexual orientation and relational standards by my dear friend, Gretchen Haley, and this by Liz James that explores coloring outside the lines of socially approved love relationships
Karen Johnston explores sex, sexuality and aging after serving as an intern chaplain in a nursing home and this post, by Desmond Ravenstone, a UU lay leader and the founder of Leather and Grace—a safe space for UUs to explore BDSM and kink, lifts up the concept of covenant in BDSM relationships and refutes the improper use of contracts in the book/movie 50 Shades of Grey.
As I said, it’s been refreshing to hear other people’s points of view regarding healthy, sacred sexuality and I will be somewhat saddened to see this month end. There is however, an opportunity for Colorado Springs folks to continue the conversation. All Souls is offering, in conjunction with our sister church, High Plains, an adult OWL (Our Whole Lives) class. While we have very faithfully offered the versions of this whole life sexuality curriculum to our children and youth (it covers the span of time from kindergarten to adulthood) this is the first time we are offering the adult version, for people 35 and over. This 12 week class gives adults the opportunity to explore various issues of sexuality including
· Sexuality and Values
· Sexuality and Communication
· Sexuality and Spirituality
· Discovering the Sexual Self
· Experiencing the Sexual Other
· Sexual Attraction and Early Relationships
· Sexuality and Developing Relationships
· Sexuality and Committed Relationships
· Sexual Diversity
· Sexuality and Family
· Sexuality and Aging
· Sexual Health
The facilitators will be Larry Norfleet and Dianne McRae. Classes will be held on Thursdays from 7-9pm starting March 12th. Because of the nature of this class, attendance to all sessions is expected. The cost will be $125. You can register by contacting Laurie Frydenall at All Souls or Jessica Laike at High Plains.
If these blog conversations have been fascinating to you, if you want to increase your understanding of your own sexuality and others, I hope you will consider attending. You do not have to be a member of either church in order to participate.
Now, as I finish the post, I still have one more to do; check back tomorrow for that. In the meantime, here is my personal credo regarding sex, relationships, and love, with the caveat that clearly our hetero married bloggers have shown us sex still is alive and well in monogamous relationships! If video link doesn't work, you can access it here